Links to its children could make them more manipulators


Parents often find themselves lying to their children, in particular, to make them obey. Unfortunately, this trick would be associated with a detrimental impact once the child becomes a year adult. This is what regrets a study of singaporean.



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As someone who has never lied, even by omission to a child raises his hand. The binding is often part of the education of children, especially if they are struggling to behave stores well in spite of all other methods used.


Unfortunately, this approach would be detrimental to the child over the long term, since it encouraged them to adopt year adult behavior of the manipulator.


It is, in any case, according to a study conducted by researchers from the University of Singapore, and published in The Journal of Experimental Child Psychology. The team was interviewed by questionnaires some 379 young students about their education, and in particular on the propensity of their parents to lie to them when they were children.


results : young adults who had lied the most during childhood were more likely to lie to their parents in adulthood. They have also confessed to be more difficult for physiological and social than other students, less exposed to the lie as children. These difficulties included problems of conduct, experience guilt, or shame, or even a character selfish gold manipulative.


The education of by the lie may seem to save time, especially when the real reasons why the parents want their children to do something is complicated to explain. When parents tell their children that ‘honesty is the best practice, but have shown their dishonesty by lying, such behavior can send contradictory messages to their children. The dishonesty of the parents may eventually erode trust and promote dishonesty in children”, detailed Setoh Peipei, a lead author of the study.


Our research suggests that parenting by lying is a practice that has negative consequences for the children when they grow up. Parents must be aware of these potential implications downstream and consider alternatives to the binding, such as recognizing the child’s feelings, to give her information so that the child knows what to do, offer choices and ways to solve problems together, to promote a good behaviour of the children”, suggested by the researcher.


Note that the study has not differentiated the various degrees of lies. So, maybe there lies less harmful than others (“there are no more candy” is better that “if you do not do things not well, I’ll throw in the crocodile”).


Source : Eurekalert


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